In the medical field, there are certain diagnoses that are straightforward. My oldest son has asthma. For that, he needs an inhaler, a steroid, and an occasional nebulizer treatment.

No, asthma isn’t always a walk in the park. We continuously work with the doctors to adjust his meds, and pneumonia is always a concern. But in terms of services and treatment options, asthma is pretty cut-and-dry.

The same is true with many other diagnoses. There’s a plan put in place, several medications to choose from, and finite protocols that everyone follows.

This is not the case for children on the autism spectrum. When my son was diagnosed 9 months ago, the doctor handed me a folder and sent me on my way.


Over the past few months, I’ve stumbled through literature on ASD, joined countless Facebook groups, and attended seminars. And I still don’t feel like I have a handle on things.

The spectrum is so large and diverse, every child has his or her own unique needs. So when it comes to services and supports, parents play a much larger role.

Some days I wish I were a doctor. Other days, I wish I were a lawyer. But I’m not.

So I continue to sift through the literature, and I reach out to other parents and autistic adults who have more experience than me.

It’s not easy being the new-mom-on-the-block. And these other parents know that. So in an effort to pay it forward, I want to share a few services I recently found.

1. Free Diapers Delivered to Your Door

Generally, children with autism spend a longer time in diapers. A lack of communication skills and self awareness can slow down the potty training process.

Some autistic children need diapers for a very long time… until the teenage years and beyond.

Fortunately, diapers and other incontinence supplies are covered by Medicaid. Any child who has a relevant diagnosis and is past the typical potty training age (3 or 4 years old) can benefit from this service.

Every state has their own process, so ask your doctor or case worker how to get started. You may need to turn in a prescription. Or you may simply need to call the home delivery service.

I have 2 children in diapers. One with an autism diagnosis, and one with a developmental delay. Both of them are eligible for this service.

If you have private insurance, check to see if incontinence supplies are covered. If not, call the home delivery service provider anyway. They may be able to bill under a medical code that your insurance accepts.

2. A Handicapped Parking Placard

Parking lots can be a scary place. Many children with autism lack awareness of their surroundings. They also show little regard to safety and have low impulse control.


For these reasons, autism is included as a neurological impairment in many states, allowing parents to obtain a permanent handicap placard.

Ask your doctor to fill out the one-page form. You can choose between a plate or placard. Simply mail it in, or take it to your local DMV.

Every state has different requirements. So be sure to check your local guidelines.

3. Free Admissions and Special Events

Going on outings can be tricky when your child is on the spectrum. I always wonder how my children will react to a new environment.

Will their anxiety kick in? Can they handle the noises, crowds, and lines? Will they have a complete meltdown? Is it even worth the trip?

Thankfully, the parents and autistic adults who came before us have worked very hard to help make our outings less stressful. Many businesses and destinations have become more aware of autism and other disabilities.

Some businesses have special “sensory friendly” hours. Our local trampoline park opens extra hours for people with special needs to jump in a more relaxing environment.

During the height of tourist season, our aquarium opened early one day so kids with special needs could come see the animals without the crowds. It felt like we had the whole place to ourselves.


Lots of movie theaters offer sensory friendly showings every week. They turn down the volume and turn up the lights so the theater isn’t quite as scary.

Other destinations offer discounted or free admissions to people with disabilities and their carers. Our local zoo allows any person with an ADA recognized condition and a companion free admission.

Even theme parks offer special accommodations. So instead of giving up on the idea of going out, make a few calls first. You might be pleasantly surprised.

If you’re new to life on the spectrum, don’t despair! You’re not navigating these waters alone. All you have to do is ask, and someone will be more than happy to help you.

Make sure you reach out to autistic adults and other parents. Join a local autism Facebook group or attend a meet up through the Autism Society of America. You can find your local ASA chapter here.

What services or resources have you found helpful? Maybe one that surprised you?

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    14 replies to "3 Services New Autism Parents May Not Know About"

    • Amanda

      I can completely relate to being handed a folder and sent on your way. It’s so overwhelming. It took 2.5 years before we found the right combination of doctors and therapists to help my son make real progress.

      • Not an Autism Mom

        It takes a while. I’m still trying to work everything out. ❤

        • Amanda

          That’s the truth. My son has made huge progress in the last 10 months but it wasn’t until a year and a half after his diagnosis that I found the right combination of doctors and therapists to really help him.

    • Gertrude Nonterah

      Learning I can get free diapers is very helpful ! My son is 4 years old. Thanks for sharing.

      • crios83

        I absolutely loved this article. When my son was first diagnosed I, too was given a folder and sent on my way. It took months and beyond before I felt I really had a handle on things. I’m just now in the process of applying for the placard as well. Thank you for paying it forward! ❤

        • Not an Autism Mom

          Thank you! It’s hard figuring everything out on your own. ❤

      • Not an Autism Mom

        I’m glad I could help. That’s one of the things that should’ve been in that pamphlet from the doctor! ❤

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    • Kara Nash

      Just a heads up, you can’t get a handicap placard for ASD in every state. In NC, it’s required that the neurological deficit impairs the person’s ability to walk more than 200 feet to get it. I am a RN who has Level I ASD and works with other people with Level I Autism for a living. I’ve even had doctors write letters to accompany the DMV forms for some of my adults that have PTSD around cars and driving and would be so much less stressed if we took finding their car and/or a parking space out of the equation. No luck. I’m glad that you live in a state that’s more reasonable. I would say at least 20% of my caseload was hit by a car in childhood. This would be such a powerful accommodation for so many reasons.

      • Not an Autism Mom

        I’ve just learned about this. 😢 There seems to be some grey area when it comes to requirements. Could you message me on my Facebook page? I’d like to talk to you more about this. ❤

    • Ciera

      I have a 9yr old autistic son and i found out when he was about 3. Its been hard but speech and school has advanced so much. Tantrums gotten worse

    • Mary Townsend

      I am a autistic parent and need any help available and with pull ups.

    • Anonymous

      Aeroflow Urology does diapers

    • Tiffany Mosley

      Thank you so much my son was diagnosed in 2019 all they gave me was a folder but none of this information provided i just got the handicap decal and pull up this week in process of ab theapy and better school.

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